Integrity is The key to a Happy Life

Integrity is the key to a happylife what’s going on you guys Tyler here alone today I just got a call fromBrandon and it’s one of those days where uh his computer charger isn’tworking so he can’t keep a charge which means that you guys are stuck with metoday but I’ve got some things on my mind I I got some things that I think will be beneficial uh I hope will bebeneficial to you who are here and um always grateful for people who join uswhether it’s live or on YouTube or on any of the other channels uh just wantto just take a quick minute and let you know how grateful I am I’m working on uhthe healing Journey myself which is the course that Brandon and I have created to sort of step into living awholehearted life and reclaim your life from shame and Trauma and one of thechallenges inside that course is uh to spend some time a a consistent amount oftime over the course of a month and uh find and Express gratitude to the peoplethat matter in your life and I just want to from the bottom of my heartpersonally say thank you to every single person who listens to us who supports uswho believes in us uh who gets value from us uh thank you thank you for beingpart of the tribe thank you for being part of the team thank you for the support that you provide me um it it

What is Integrity?

does make a difference and it actually really adds to the quality of my life I love doing this and the reason I lovedoing this is because of the people that I get to interact with uh so to every single one of you listeners first andforemost I want to say thank you uh next thing I just want to mention we weregetting a few people that are kind of starting to fill in the cracks where we have some openings but if you would beinterested in coming on the show we would love to visit with you and speak about your questions it can beabout anything uh past trauma shame parenting issues in-lawissues uh struggles with other challenges that you’re having in your life communication things um we’d loveto have your questions uh go to therapy brothers. org and hit the button thatsays come on the show and you’ll be able to just sign right up right there there’s a schedule that shows whatavailable times there are and we would love to have you come on the show so third thing really quickly we gotanother review and it’s just a short simple but really good review and I want to just read it itsays uh it’s the title of it is I think I get it now and it says I am gratefulfor your advice Insight honesty explanations patience Christlike loveand selfless service you both make a difference you have both given me strength when I have needed it mostum uh sorry makes me a little bit emotional but thank you uh I love justthat honest feedback and so glad that you get some value out of whatever it is

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that Brandon and I try to provide for you and wherever you’re at in your journey whoever wrote this reviewum I I hope that you never let go of Hope because there is always there isalways the possibility of growing into a better life a more wholehearted life so so thank you for yourreview uh today I wanted to talk with you a little bit about a topic that’s been rolling around in my brain forquite a while it’s it’s always on the top of my brain but it’s been kind of reinforced in a couple of waysrecently that uh that I wanted to speak about today and that I think is going to be pivotal it’s always pivotal to theprocess of not only recovery but to the process of just general happiness inlife it’s one of the foundational building blocks one of the one of the core pieces to developing a life that’sworth living a life that’s rich and vibrant and full and uh and that topicis integrity and we talk about this topic a lot because it’s thatimportant uh but I wanted to talk a little bit about it maybe in a slightly different way share a couple of storiesum maybe a couple of quotes and uh and try to reinforcewhy what Integrity is and then why it’s soimportant in terms of what we can commit to in order to create the life that we want to be living so uh a couple ofthings to start with a couple of definitions of what Integrity is we always talk about integrity I think mostpeople would include things like you know the term probity which is a deep sense of honesty honest D um Brandon

Integrity in Relationships

uses a definition when in a structural term of being able to keep your shapeUnder Pressure uh and then the two definitions that I wanted to share today are the number the first one isintegrity the quality of beinghonest sorry the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles or moraluprightness and then the second definition and we’ll get into the second definition a little bit further on inour discussion today uh that I really like is the state of being whole andundivided the state of being whole and undivided remember that when we get back to some of the other things we’re goingto talk about today um but you think about those definitions in a verypersonal way having the quality of being honest and having a strong moral principle and the state of being wholeand undivided and and if you were to pause for a minute and think about some of theplaces in your own life where you might be experiencing some of the most pain the moststruggle uh maybe the most suffering I would suspect that there’s agood possibility that something is a Miss in you being out of touch with either your own moral principle making decisionsthat don’t line up with those things or feeling and this is what shame does to us feeling as if we are not whole andthat we are divided that something about us is broken something about us is out of placesomething is a miss something is not in alignment and those things causedissonance in us and they cause us pain and suffering and struggle and then of

Integrity and Happiness

course when we’re in those places often times because of the stress and the pain that we’re in we often choose thingsthat don’t actually really lead us to a more effective or more happy life sowhen Integrity breaks down it’s like ly that our lives start to break down because we make choices that don’t alignwith our moral principles uh so I wanted to share a couple stories and this is my way ofum my way of complaining about some things that happen but also maybe sharing some stories that will bringabout some principles and these are both business interactions that I had the first one was with a rental car companyand I don’t mind saying their name uh because I would encourage every single one of our listeners is not to use thiscompany if you ever rent a car um and it’s6t uh a while ago my wife rented a car went on a trip with my daughter I think it was a soccer tournament or somethingand they had the car for three days and typically you you know go around the carand you sort of Mark where the marks already are on the car and then you knowyou’re not responsible for those things because you mark where the car marks were on the car before you leave on thisparticular occasion for whatever reason it that part got skipped um and my wife drove the car for3 days and returned it and then a few weeks later we got anotice from 6t that we were responsible for $4,000of damage on the car in like five different places on the car so 60 went and took advantage of thefact that the step got skied about marking the places on the car and wanted us to file an insurance claim for every

Real-Life Examples

single ding on the car and claim responsibility for the damages to everything on thecar um technically we didn’t do what we were supposed to do by marking thatpaper I don’t even think she was offered that thing because it was just a step that got skipped probably by accident umso technically we didn’t do our part but we also Rihanna and my wife did notactually do the damage on the car especially five different spots all over the car that were already there so 60took advantage of a missed step and cashed in hoping that we would then payfor it all and then of course when we had to pay for it all we used our insurance to help cover those costs umwhen we talked to them on the phone they refuse to budge on those things and youcould get into the technicalities of things but I would suspect that most of you in the same shoes as us you wouldfeel like you were taken advantage of there would be some level of feeling kind of gaslit there would some be somelevel like the just the sickness in your stomach that you know that somebody knows that they’re taking advantage of asystem and in a certain sense you feel like an object so my wife myself our family wefelt like an object to be used by a company that was in some ways dishonestand lacks integrity and and so the relational

Overcoming Challenges

quality that goes on there is is that of course now there is never we they have at least one family that will never everuse their services again I’m hoping now that there’s four 5,000 6,000 10,000people listening to this that there’s also 10,000 people who will be leery if they ever choose to use that companyagain um because I would rather do business with companies that live withinIntegrity contrast that with a different experience and this is a shout out to agreat company that I believe operates from a place of Integrity um with going to some place like Les Schwab the tirecompany they Pride themselves in customer service they Pride themselves in integrity and my experiences to datehave been nothing but positive they are always going out of their way to say hey we may have madethe mistake on this thing or hey here’s a free flat repair or you know what we we’re doing new tires but your tiresstill have some tread on them so we’re going to actually give you this credit for that um because because we canactually reuse those in some way they don’t have to say all those things but they go overboard to to show outwardlythat they’re trying to live with Integrity uh the difference of experience and the difference of relationship is marked it’s completelydifferent and it’s because when you have a relationship with somebody that you can trust that they are holding theirshape and that they have a strong moral code you want to develop a stronger long-term relationship with that placeor that company and the same thing is true in individual relationships right Second Story thisjust happened a couple weeks ago we decided to take our kids to a play uhdown kind of in Salt Lake it’s a couple hours away we decided to go and you know we got tickets to the playhouse and thenwe got a hotel room for the night just kind of do a little miniature vacation we booked the hotel throughuh price line but then apparently price line then used booking to do the bookingso booking.com did the booking and we paid up front we showedup at the hotel the hotel had our name but they didn’t have proof of the

Integrity and Growth

payment um and so they the hotel just kind of nonchalantly said well why don’tyou just pay for it now and then you can kind of work it out with booking or Price Line later and is obviouslysomething that probably happens quite a bit and probably what happens a lot of the time is is that both Price Line andbooking whoever did did the the charging is going to keep that amount the person’s going to pay on their cardforget about it or not realize that it didn’t happen that way or maybe even just pay for it not knowing that notremembering that they had paid for it before and they’ll get double charged umand and the thing that was really frustrating with this one is that maybe that’s maybe that’s a total accident uhbut then when we go try to do the customer service We call we call Price Line and Price Line puts us on hold for15 or 20 minutes and then the person says oh we didn’t actually do that because we contracted with booking soyou need to go to booking but they don’t have a phone number to just move you straight over to booking so they hang up on you and then you have to callbooking.com and then booking.com puts you on hold for 30 minutes and then comes on and says that you have to havea certain code that is nowhere in the itinerary that you had or the confirmation that you had and if youdon’t have that code Cod then they say they have to call you back and then they never call you back andum uh not only is that like a horrific business practice but in my mind itlacks complete Integrity basically it’s a battle of attrition the same thing is true with insurance companies thatcontinually deny deny deny deny hoping that somebody doesn’t have either the the gumption or the fight or the desireor the means or the resources to actually get what they’ve been paying for all along this is replete we could

Tips for Integrity

go across all sorts of different businesses across this across our world right now it’s almost become a standardin some places to live with complete lack ofIntegrity now you guys probably have your own stories with this you probably only have have your own experiences withwhatever it is that were your companies you can throw it there if you want in the chat or whatever it’s because it’sbecome so much a way of life for people to focus so much on the bottom line andforget the relational piece and in doing so sacrifice all sorts of moral principles that most of us would respector prize when we’re working with a particular business right think about your own lifewhen you’ve been in those kinds of situations some of you have maybe been on the phone with an insurance company for 4 hours being denied for somethingthat you already paid for some of you guys have probably had a dealing with 60 before similar to mine um think aboutit what is it like for you when you’re on the receiving end of that lack ofIntegrity what is your actual experience what are the emotions thatrun through you what are the thoughts that go through you what are the things that it leadsyou to want to do what are your feelings towards the entity that you’re havingthe deal the dealings with there’s a pretty good chance that

Conclusion

there’s lack of trust you even if you don’t do anything outwardly you know you’re never going togo back to that place and and that’s some of the stuff thatyou know that that’s that’s the stuff that then we start to lose trust in all other things right you see this all overour world right now uh so I wanted to talk a little bit about how does this apply to ourpersonal lives you know think about it make it a little bit more personal for yourself

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think about your current relationships the one that you would consider as the closest or the strongest or the onesthat you would like to be the strongest and do an inventory two waysdo an inventory two ways number one on yourself first in the context of myrelationship with my spouse or my best friends or you know my family membershow do I do at maintaining my own morals my own moralvalues and being congruent in the way that I show up in thoserelationships you know a lot of a lot of people listening have probably experienced you know some version of abetrayal uh by their spouse maybe um what’s it like to try to climb out ofthat hole when the person that you’ve been trying to cultivate closenessconnection safety and trust with is now not operating from whattheir stated level of moral principlesare what’s it like to try to lean back into a relationship without seeing that there’ssome movement towards that congruency it makes it difficult tomaintain and to grow long-term Rel relationships so in the short term alack of Integrity can produce in the short term a lack of Integrity can kindof keep a secret you can hide you can protect yourself you can avoid being exposed you can avoid some kind ofvulnerability you can maybe get something that you want you can manipulate asituation but Integrity is essential for a long-term success inlife Integrity is what you use for the long game Integrity is the principle that youlie on your deathbed knowing that you lived a life seeking to live the principles that you lived and not havingto regret the way that you lived your life that’s what Integrityis so I looked up a few things uh some kind of outcomes of Integrity just tothink about and maybe just want to share a couple of quotes with youtoo excuse me so a couple quotes here four and thenwe’ll talk about the the actual outcomes and benefits of Integrity for asecond a single lie destroys a whole reputation ofIntegrity the foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty characterintegrity Faith love and loyalty that Zig Ziggler one of my favoritessometimes you see my t-shirt here I wear the Bob Marley t-shirt Bob Marley the greatness of a man is not how muchwealth he acquires but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around himpositively confucious the strength of a Nation derives from the Integrity of thehome and then of course The Four Agreements Don Miguel Ruiz be impeccable with your word speakwith integrity say only what you mean avoid using the word to speak againstyourself or gossip about others use the power of your word in the direction ofTruth and Love um think about that again in your ownlife the second way that you could ask the question is in my current relationships am I surrounding myselfwith people who are committed to this principle you know people make mistakespeople maybe sometimes don’t get everything right that’s different but am I surrounding myself with people who asa way of life are committed to integrating this principle into my life because if you are you’re actually goingto be building a team that can hold the storms of life that are going to come you’re actually going to be building ateam that allows every single individual that’s that’s in thatinteraction to be authentic to be themselves and that is actually the keylych to building trust in relationships when people come togetherand can show up in their authenticity be accepted not judged and then merg their value systems that’s actually whereconnection and safety and Trust are built so a few a few uh thoughts aboutthe outcomes of living an integrous life being committed to an integrouslife the first one is peace of mindmind um I remember I remember this you know in my own sort of Journey andcommitment it’s so funny when I was deep in my ownaddiction I prided myself in being in quotes an honest man right I all mybusiness dealings outwardly with other people were overly honest Uh I prided that myself in thatword integrity all the while keeping secrets from the very people that were the closest tome and I can’t tell you I can’t hardly put into words whatthat discrepancy did to my inner peace to my the sense of my own being to mymental and emotional health I was tormented I I was tormented I felt likesuch a hypocrite and I could put on a happy face I could pride myself in honesty I could work hard I could makefriends I could be happy I could perform all the ways that I was supposed to perform but I knew that when I went tobed at night I was going to bed on a on an unclear conscience and that prevented me fromsleeping well that prevented me from being able to think more clearly I hadto spend more time making sure that I covered my tracks in order to make sure my appearances were a certain way andthe torment inside increased the amount of anxiety and depression that Ifelt so I already struggle with some level of depression especially in the winter time but itAmplified every negative mental health problem in my life gotworse with the lack of Integrity because you because you can’tthink clearly and it saps your energy when you know you’re out of alignment with the life that you weredesigned to live or that you professed to live so I I quote this all the time inmy group it’s something that I’ve learned over the years and and I really believe this that um there are very fewbetter feelings in the world than the ability to go to bed on a clearconscience if you want the best night’s sleep in the world make sure that youare in alignment in your integrity and and you will you’ll sleepbetter at night because there will be an inner peace that is emanating from yououtward into the world the partner that you’re with will feelthat people always ask like how do I know if they’re being honest with me how do I know this or that and yeah there’s all these tangible things you can go dobut the inner commitment you know one of my favorite quotes is hanging on my wall at home it says a man without decision of charactercan never be said to belong to himself he belongs to whatever can make captive ofhim and what the way I read that is if I don’t wake up in the morning and decide with intention to live according to themoral principles and the code that I believe in and that I believe God has like called meto I will become a captive to something else whatever comes along is going tograb me because I don’t have the principles to fall back on that I’ve already chosen to liveIntegrity as I said earlier is a long-term game if you want your relationships tolast you have to show up in those relationships with Integrity some people seem to manage itthey lie for 20 30 40 years and what they don’t realize is isthat they sapped the life out of a relationship because they kept the relationship they didn’t get rejectedbut they missed out on the depth the richness the closeness the intimacythat only a long-term relationship of Integrity can produce in essence they go through theirwhole life wearing a mask showing up as an impostor and as opposer trying to not get rejected and never actually evenshowing who they really are so if you want to play the longgame if you want to have a 50th Anniversary if you want tohave if you want to have your partner holding your hand when you’re75 as you’re getting ready to pass on to the next life and they’re looking you in the eye and say they’re proud to be yourspouse the only pathway there is throughIntegrity third increased self-esteem there’s an innerconfidence that is developed when you know you have a moral value system and you’re in alignment with that in the waythat you live your life and make your choices you like yourself better it’s easier to look yourself inthe mirror and look yourself in the eye and like what you see it’s easier to take that energyafter you look yourself in the mirror and look yourself in the eye and like what you see and take that energy out into the world and do something goodwith it you become a Force for good in the world when you live with integrityso in order to do that you have to understand what your values are it takes time to actually be curious andintentional with what your values are to know yourself come to knowyourself what are the values that are most important to you and then commit yourself to mastering thoseprinciples next one kind of alluded to this already but it’s strongerrelationships you know I’m fortunate enough that I have some people in my life now it’s come with a lot of workand a lot of sifting and a lot of personal work to actually be someone who can be this for somebody and not justtake it from somebody but I’m I’m fortunate I’ve got I’ve got a good team I’ve got my wife and I’ve got you knowobviously my brother’s siblings and I have some really good best friends and you know Bern Brown said youknow any of us can consider ourselves fortunate if we have two or three people in an inner circle at any giventime the only way someone gets into the inner circle is through being able totrust them and Trust comes through Integrity I surround myself with peoplethat I know are committed to living with integrity and the safety that thatprovides to my life it’s like having it’s like being on a tight RPP that lifeis you know life has all sorts of risks struggles challenges problems that’s how we grow but when you have a solid teamthat’s like the safety net when you fall off the tight RPP and it feels so goodyou can actually go into your life and take more risks when you know you have a team to fall back on and the way thatyou know you have a team that’ll be there is because of the Integrity that they show up with in their lives and intheir relationship with you and so you’re going to have a deeper sense of connection a deeper sense of intimacy adeeper sense of satisfaction a deeper sense of safety and that safety thenallows to allows you to then go into the world and take the risks that you need to to live the life that you weredesigned for and learn the lessons that you you need to learn having a team is pivotal and atthe core of that team is integrity trust goes along with thatgoes without saying improved mental health I already spoke those things these are things that that are have beenlooked at and researched with living with Integrity here’s another one sense ofpurpose and here’s where I think this kind of comes in um if you look those two definitionsof Integrity the first definition again being the quality of being honest andhaving a strong moral principle and then the second one the state of being whole andundivided if I’m committed if I understand what my principles are my core moral principles are and if I’mliving a life that you know most of us can’t be fully congruent but if I’m over here with what I profess to be my moralcode and I live way over here and I’m not overlapping with what my moral code is that dissonance is going tocause confusion it’s going to cause mental health problems it’s going to cause stress anxiety depression but themore that I start to fuse those things I am now living in alignment with the lifethat God designed me for so I’m going to come to understand myself more and as I live that self moreand grow in my confidence I’m going to come to understand what my purpose is inlife we talk about this in recovery all the time you know when you’re recovering your heart from shame trauma trying toheal from whatever it is that’s made you lose your sense of confidence get the wind knocked out of you emotionally orwhatever that one of the overall goals is to actually sort of systematicallyPeel back the layers that have formed of self- protction the lies the shame andfind at the root really the names that God has already made for you and to learn toaccept those names and when you’re living a life that is seeking your values and then tryingto live in alignment with those things you will actually be uncovering thosenames and those names will sound different you know I’m Tyler but there might be names that are things like youknow some of my names are teacher guide first responder helper lover father and if youlook at all those names that I believe have been I’ve received from from my higher power all of those things willtrack themselves back to morals and principles that I believe strongly inthat I feel called to so you’ll actually align yourself with your life purpose if you’recommitted to this single thing of what we call Integrityexcuse me the next one is decision making andyou think about this like decision- making takes willpower and willpower takes brain power and brain power takesglucose and the research actually shows that we’re born I mean not born we wakeup every morning with a certain level of finite resource that is the glucose in our brain that helps feed ourwillpower and every decision that we make what time we get out of bed so you know if you if you’re the kind of personwho hits the snooze button you are already sapping your willpower before you get out of bed in the morningbecause every decision takes some of your willpower so if you want to mainstreamyour life and save your willpower for the things that matter get in good healthy habits a little bit at a time ofhaving good morning routines don’t make a lot of decisions on what you’re going to eat in the morning or what clothesyou need to put on in the morning um this is why this is my this is my cop out and why I say I wear shorts and at-shirt every day like I don’t have to think about what I put on so I can put my willpower somewhere else right mywife would disagree with me she thinks I should dress differently for work but uh but that that’s the idea isevery decision that I make takes some part of my willpower throughout the day and I can actually mainstream a lot ofmy decision-making if I’m already tied to the morals and principles that I live I’m going to go throughout my day everysingle day and I’m going to be presented with certain OPP opportunities an opportunity to be a little bit dishonesthere maybe I ding somebody’s car in the parking lot on accident atWalmart um if I already know what my moral code says and I’m in alignmentwith that moral code I don’t even have to make the decision I’m either going to wait there for the person to come out or I’m goingto write a note with my phone number on it that says hey sorry I dinged your car the decision is already made thewillpower is saved I can go put that to something else if I’m working on overcomingan addiction to pornography and I’ve committed to myself that I’m going to be honest no matter what I don’t have tothink about what I’m going to do if I have a relapse the decision has already been made because I’m already connected tothe sense of morals that I know that I want to live in order to have a happy life so I don’t have to sit and thinkand worry for three four five days s Days 12 days let it eat me alive sap mywillpower make me more depressed the decision has already been made because I’m already tied to my morals and valuesso there’s something to Merit being in touch with what your morals and values are and then strengthening those thingsinto habit because decisions will already be made for you throughout theday you’ll be a faster processor you’ll be more decisive and you’ll be more in alignment with who you are and what yourvalues are and you’ll be more likely be making better decisions as a resultthe last one is and this kind of goes back to the the stories I told with the companiesthat I had some uh some experience with reputationand reliability what is yourreputation you know you know there’s those country songs there’s an old called country song it’s it’s it’s Ithink the title of it is it’s my last name it talks about a guy know going through life and there’s certain thingsthat he can’t sacrifice because it’s tied to his last name you know I remember being on my ownchurch mission I was uh serving in Baltimore Maryland when I was 19 to 21 yearsold and um and I was living right in the inner city and I was pretty young I was earlyon I was like four or five months into my two-year service and uh II started to kind of sacrifice some of my own you know Integrity I decided tostart bending a few of the rules I started decided to start having a little bit more fun than maybe I should leavingthe area that I was assigned to I remember one time we went down it was the very first the very first of all ofthe ESPN zones so people who know what they are it’s like a it’s like a big restaurant and then on the other sidethey have um they on the other side they had like these all these virtual reality Gamessports games everything and it was their VIP opening and it happened to be just acouple miles outside of where I was supposed to stay in my area to do my church service to be helping teachpeople the gospel of Christ and me and my companion that I was with we decidedto break the rules and went down to the ESPN Zone and tried to get in on VIP night we walked in and they turned us away instantly when they saw us in ourname tags and the guy I was with you know was joking with them and he’s like you wouldn’t turned down a man of Godwould you and uh they laughed at us and then they actually went and got the manager and then they pulled us in and let us gointo VIP and we spent most of the day eating the food at ESPN Zone and thenplaying all of the virtual video games now I had signed up to do somethingdifferent and by doing that I was blatantly breaking the rules um not a big deal you know likekids are going to be kids I was 19-year-old kid you know but I had signed up for something different and Ihad committed to something different and I committed to a different set of rules than the ones I was currentlyliving and it was a few days later my mission president the person who’s in charge of all the missionaries so thispoor old guy he’s in charge of like 300 you know 19 to 21 year olds think aboutthat job um he he comes down to do interviews once a month and he sits downin my interview and word obviously must have gotten back or maybe someone got pictures or something I don’t know umand he sat down and he uh kind of rubbed his face for a second he said so how’s the work going and you know I’m sittingthere kind of just putting on the front like oh yeah it’s really good president like you know we’re teaching these people and doing this thing and we werewe were doing some good hard work but we were we were messing around a little bit and um then he sat there and he’s likeI’ve heard that I’ve heard rumors of you doing a few things this and this and this he listed off like three four fivethings and uh that they were against what I had committed to do they were outside the bounds of what I hadcommitted to and uh I kind of turned red and I kind of got embarrassed and I kind of put myhead down and then he got pretty impassioned and he waited for me to lookup at him and he looked me right in the face and he made eye contact with me and he held my gaze and he happened to also be reallygood friends with my grandfather the one that you guys hear me talk about on the podcast all the time and he happened tobe really good friends with my grandfather and he’s he used that and hesaid it was basically that country song He said ElderPatrick he said I’ve come to love you I’ve come to Value what you bringhere no one dislikes you everybody loves you you generally work hard but whatyou’re doing right now is not something that yourgrandfather would approve of and you are not upholding your family name about what you’re doing rightnow and then he said I want to know right now I want a commitment from you right now you’re either going to be withme or you’re going to be against me and of course there was like thispiercing thing that went all the way down to my soul because I already knew I already knew what I was doing wasoutside the bounds of what I had committed to yeah I was out having fun it was a good time and you know we stillworked hard but but I was breaking [Music] my integrity and when he had that pointedout to me and he tied that to this idea of reputation like I’m proud of where Icome from I’m proud of my life experiences I hate to say it but I’m proud of some ofthe hell that I’ve been through and that I’ve put my family through but I’m proud of the lessons that are learned I’mproud of the life that’s lived I want Generations from now when somebody mentions the last name Patrick I want itto ring with a good feeling in people they come from a goodplace I want to be that for my ancestors and I want my children and mygrandchildren to be that for mereputation reputation and that is built consistently Through Time by followingwhat the truth is of your morals and your principlesso hopefully this is helpful to you guys I’d ask you to challenge yourselves to think about that in your ownlives ask yourselves and do an inventory not a shameful one is there something inmy life that I’m currently engaged in that does not actually align with my moralsand my values and when you sit with that and if you have something rise to the surfaceask yourself what the cost is to you right now ask yourself what the prices thatyou’re paying by choosing to keep that alive in yourlife and then ask yourself what the benefit could be ifyou were to surrender that if you were to give yourself over a little bit more to the life that youknow God designed you for to the life that’ll let you go to bed on a clearconscience and if you make that commitment it will be difficult you’ll be be faced with things that will challenge your integrity but if youlearn to stick to your integrity your life will increase your life will become more colorful more vibrant more wholemore undivided and all of us want to be whole andundivided so thank you guys hopefully this is Meaningful to you or somebody ifthis is valuable to you or if you know somebody who could benefit from this please share it if you guys get valueout of what Brandon and I are doing to produce here there’s certain ways that you can help at no cost subscribe to thechannel listen to us share these things with other people if they’re meaningful to you it allows us to get in front ofmore people and make a bigger difference in the world and uh again so grateful tohave you on my team and until next time keep on keeping on