How Can I Know My True Identity And Worth When I Continue To Relapse?

Both Brothers| With Caller
February 16, 2026•1 min read



In this episode Brannon and Tyler talk with Josh about how to know your true identity and worth—even when you keep slipping up or relapsing. They unpack why relapse can make people feel like they’re “back at square one,” and how that mindset can actually fuel the cycle of addiction through shame, control, and self-rejection. Together, they explore the difference between guilt (recognizing a behavior didn’t align with your values) and shame (believing you are the problem), and why tying worth to performance can sabotage real recovery. Josh brings insights from his work with individuals and couples navigating unwanted sexual behaviors, and the guys discuss a healthier framework: shifting from perfection and behavior-only change to deeper healing—self-acceptance, curiosity, connection, and growth mindset. They also talk about how “recovery tools” can become “shame tools” if the foundation isn’t right, and why modalities like IFS and ACT can be powerful starting points for lasting transformation.


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Brannon and Tyler Patrick, collectively known as the Therapy Brothers, are expert clinicians dedicated to helping individuals and couples heal from the devastating impacts of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Combining their professional backgrounds as an LCSW and an LMFT, they provide a powerful blend of clinical insight and practical tools through their popular podcasts and collaborative workshops. Their mission centers on breaking the cycle of shame and fostering deep, lasting intimacy by guiding clients toward transparency and emotional resilience.

Brannon & Tyler Patrick

Brannon and Tyler Patrick, collectively known as the Therapy Brothers, are expert clinicians dedicated to helping individuals and couples heal from the devastating impacts of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Combining their professional backgrounds as an LCSW and an LMFT, they provide a powerful blend of clinical insight and practical tools through their popular podcasts and collaborative workshops. Their mission centers on breaking the cycle of shame and fostering deep, lasting intimacy by guiding clients toward transparency and emotional resilience.

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