Why does it feel like it’s always HARDER than it should be?

In this episode, Tyler and Brannon talks about the common feeling of struggle in various aspects of life, emphasizing that challenges often seem more daunting than they truly are. They discuss the psychological factors that contribute to this perception, such as fear of failure and self-doubt, which can amplify our sense of difficulty. By offering practical strategies to reframe our mindset and approach challenges with a more positive outlook, the video encourages viewers to embrace obstacles as opportunities for growth.

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Introduction
why does it feel like it’s always harder than it should be brianna I like this one today yeah
we’ll see um I’m excited to talk about it but I have a question for you it goes right
along it goes right along with this topic actually oh no man like every single time you start an episode with
questions these days it goes to some place that Don’t worry all right i’m not going to talk about you know doing
things up your spine or flatulence or anything don’t worry um so have you ever been ticked off
ticked off yeah I’m so ticked off
yeah probably lots of times what ticks you off
i want to know what ticks off Tyler the therapy brother i’m so so ticked off
where did where did that uh where did that term come from i’m so ticked off i don’t know
i just remember mom saying it all the time like we ticked her off a lot of things i can imagine ticking like Oh I
know we ticked her off a lot you didn’t You never ticked her off me and Me and Rex did i was the golden child you guys
Nature of Struggle
She’d look at you and be She’d look at you and then look at us and be like She’d just look at us she was ticked off
i wonder if that’s like ticking like a clock or ticking like the bug you know yeah i think it’s just a madeup thing in
our family that’s probably a question for our audience has anybody ever heard or used
the term I’m so ticked off meaning like I’m really really angry or mad right now
um is that like is that a Patrick family statement or is that a common statement
that that’s a great question i’d love to know
um the reason I ask is because I was kind of ticked off this
morning okay well would would you like to talk about it well you know I I the
question um is which by the way you misspelled in YouTube
it looks like this is this is a perfect title for today because nothing is going right nothing’s going right somehow I
missed the S in does so why why do it feel it’s always harder than it should
be yeah i somehow missed an S in the word
does so that’s perfect for today’s topic because that’s exactly what’s happening yeah just you know never nothing’s going
right um Yeah amen um and and that
really is our topic today it’s like you know I think we have certain expectations sometimes and we get into
things especially things as difficult as recovery work and we want things to work
out a certain way and it always seems to kind of take a a left turn uh shift off
the rails problems come up you know what you know what really bothers me Tyler is
like a little tiny thing that turns into like a three-hour phone call to customer
service on something that’s like it’s just a little thing it should take two
minutes and instead it’s three hours of your day trying to Oh my goodness away yeah and recovery is difficult uh but
there’s there’s things throughout the process that just that that are that are
aggravating um they just you know bother you and um I want to talk
Psychological Factors
about and with you is is how not to get in that mindset um and how to there
there’s actually a way to avoid that um and then also how to persevere through
when hang-ups happen when certain things come up and and how do you stay steady
um work through those things and get past them so what do you think Tyler
yeah man i I think this is like this isn’t just a recovery type principle this is a this is a weird principle of
life where it’s kind of interesting because if you look at it from a mindfulness perspective and from even like the the
language that gets used in the healing process and recovery you get both ends
spoken at you at the same time which is just go with it just go with the flow live in the moment do your thing and
then you’re also told oh by the way you need to live with intention and set some intentions and work towards those things
and somehow those two things both have truth in them here’s a classic dialectic this is the dialectic of the serenity
prayer actually which is I need to accept the things I cannot change but I need to be actively engaged in the
things that I can do and sometimes when we set our intentions we think okay I map this all
out so we have an assignment and one of the assignments that we actually do in our healing journey process is called the impossible goal and you map out in
great detail this impossible dream that you have or this goal that you have and you map it out little step steps at a
time and I would bet if we were to talk to some people who have been through our program that most of them after mapping
out all of those steps have run into a bunch of snags that made it so that none of those steps actually worked step by
step by step by step by step yep but somehow it was important to set the intention and map it out so that you
could then hit the snags that you were going to hit and then have to figure out how to get around the snags or go through the snags and still either stay
the course on the impossible goal or sometimes it actually leads to a pivot or a shift into a new impossible goal
yeah i I love that you’re bringing up this dialectic Tyler because it it’s like either we’re glutton for punishment
or it’s the nature of of life in in many ways of like you know I could dance around in the rain barefoot and be like
Fear of Failure
I’m just living in the moment and it’s wonderful there’s nothing wrong with that that’s great but then there’s also
like processes of moving forward and doing some work and and like
accomplishing something if you’re going to build a building I can’t just dance around in the rain i got to grab some a
hammer and some nails um right and so it’s h how to balance those two of I am
out to accomplish something but I’m going to go out to accomplish something with the attitude of accepting
everything that comes to me throughout that process um instead of I’m out to
accomplish something I have a fixed mindset that it should end up this way i expect it to work out this way and then
once it doesn’t once I hit a snag or two I throw my hands in the air because it’s
like whoa this is too hard and you give
up for some reason brand you got me thinking about our days on the mow crew when we used to mow lawns i remember
remember like nervous about this one it’s
like there’s some days where like you’d set up like your you know we’d mow like 20 lawns in a day or whatever and some
days you just fly through those lawns like bam like you know just get through them all and then there’d be other days
where it seemed to stack on top of each other where you’d like shave off some old lady’s like sprinkler head and then
that would take an extra hour and a half to go get the part and fix it and then she’d be mad at you and and then right
after that like something else would happen and you’d run out of gas and forget that we had filled up the g didn’t fill up the gas cans and pretty
soon what would have been like a normal just 20 lawns that took you know five or
six hours to mow turns into like an eight or nine or 10 hour day over stupid stuff and I remember the one day you
probably seen me lose it kind of like Chvy Chase when his lights won’t work in Christmas Vacation like and he just like
loses it he’s like kicking the deer and like punches Santa in the face in the front lawn like I remember throwing fits
like that on the MO crew and one of them was when we uh we had our lawn mower and the one wheel fell off on our lawn mower
Self-Doubt
and instead of like having taking the time to try to go fix it like what we like what we should have done we just
tried to mow the lawns with a three- wheeled lawn mower for like the rest of the day because we were so mad and
non-accepting of the reality of it like Yeah yeah i remember that that was that was rough
you know you you make me think of um Have you have you ever watched Gold Rush
so there’s it’s it’s fascinating because there’s a couple different crews and I
won’t get into all of it but there’s Todd who’s this new guy who’s never mined gold before and if you watch the
first season um he comes in and him him and his dad are like you know we’re all
millionaires we just got to get it out of the ground you know and they’re just like in La La Land of like we’re rich
because there’s gold there right and then it’s just like problem after problem after breakdown and when I first
started watching it I just thought “Oh those poor guys.” And then you see a guy
like Tony Beats who’s who runs another crew and he expects the problems he’s
got like a full junkyard he’s got a couple mechanics on staff he’s just like
ready he’s like “Oh yeah that’s that’s that’s mining gold.” Like that’s You have breakdowns like that when you mine
that’s what happens when you mine gold so Todd’s like “Where’s my gold?” And Tony’s like getting the mechanic to fix
this minuscule thing that shuts down the whole operation um and he’s totally prepared to fix it
because he expects the snags are going to come um and in recovery and in life
if we can do that then it’s it’s much easier to navigate um you’re you
actually have this expectation that I get to learn through the through the struggle of it and I get to prepare for
the struggle of it therefore that will help me move forward through it faster and what do you know tony got a lot more
gold than Todd ever did right well not only was Tony Well so there’s two things tony probably had more experience so
Comparing Ourselves
that experience kind of in some ways forged that resiliency that he had and that expectation he it had recalibrated
his expectations to know that it was still there’s still a pathway to getting the gold but that pathway is going to
come with a tractor breaking down every other day or some permit that didn’t get
you know put in the right way or something else and I I think Tyler that’s one of the most like telltale
signs of wisdom is that you are prepared for life to break down on you and and
you can navigate that very well so sorry I cut you off but No that’s perfect so I guess that’s part of what we want to
talk about today Brandon is what is the process of being able to move from the
place that I was at in the mo crew all the time which is things are things should be this way like this is how you
mow a lawn you do this this this this this and boom it’s done to all of a sudden now I got a mower with three
wheels and uh and I don’t want to accept that reality um how do you move how
what’s the process of moving from a place of okay I need to set this is my biggest frustration because I like
things to be done like how do I accept that I still need to set intentions and
I still need to actively put right effort into those intentions while at the same time accepting that it’s very
likely that nothing that I’ve intended is going to play out like I thought it would
yes what’s the process of shifting that mentality yeah the I I I
think somebody It’s interesting because I hate I hate to keep bringing up gold rush but there’s another crew crew
Parker’s crew and he’s this 18-year-old kid who has wisdom um and it’s
interesting because he was raised on a gold mine and coming back to your question Tyler of like what what did
Parker and Tony have that Todd did not have um it was
experience right it was also they they had mentorship they they they they knew
how it worked and they lowered and this this is what’s interesting they produced
more and they lowered their expectations of the way the mind was going to
Impact of Expectations
run right so and what I’m saying is lower your
expectations of the way your recovery is going to go um not I’m not saying lower
the expectations of what you’re going to accomplish i’m saying lower your expectations of the way it’s going to go
smoothly um expect snags expect hang-ups um and it’s it’s all about
growth mindset Tyler that’s it that’s the only shift and and what’s cool and
this is what’s really really cool is if you back up and let go into that growth
mindset when you repeat it you do it again you’re more prepared it you can
handle the things as they come but you have to cut your teeth you have to go
through those snags with an open like like with openness in order for for that
to happen it’s kind of like that famous quote that you’ve heard a thousand times Brandon
that says something along the lines of that which we persist in doing
becomes easier not that the nature of the task becomes easier but our capacity to do so increases
yes so so in essence what you’re saying is is that when I’m when I’m working a process like recovery I mean you think
about this it’s pretty standard let’s just say with like betrayal and like say
infidelity here or some kind of like compulsive behavior maybe a sexual addiction or something
Reframing Challenges
um as the betrayed partner there’s a pretty good chance that my partner isn’t going to step right after disclosure
into just a way of being in a lifestyle of complete honesty and transparency
and there’s probably going to be even if it’s not the big cheating or the big behavior anymore there’s probably going to be a pattern of hiding and omitting
and dishonesty that has to be worked on and chipped away at it won’t be perfect and over time what we’d want is just to
have full transparency and honesty so that they the relationship can just heal and start moving moving forward but
what’s going to happen and likely is that there’s going to be several mini disclosures and many breakdowns around
that those patterns and as the betrayed partner
unfortunately they’re going to get really good at handling small disclosures um and hopefully over time
they learn to trust themselves that they can manage those disclosures they don’t get buried so far for so fast and for so
long they know how to have the right kinds of support the right tools around them and then they can manage those with
way less suffering than they did the first time yes right and the same is true for the person who’s had the
pattern of dishonesty is that over time they’re going to get better and better with practice and with support and
accountability and humility and all those principles that we talk about and that practice is actually going to be
part of the process that draws people together and what’s weird about that is when it’s done properly even though it’s done in a hard
way it still has the opportunity to restore trust with that practice which
is a snag that nobody really wants to hit yeah
yeah uh Tyler I want to I want to just insert something I think that’s really
important everything that you just went through is like a process and you have to experience it and you have to go
through it um and like let’s use your three-w
wheeled mower analogy let’s say you have a really hard day and you go through it and it’s like one thing after another
breaks down and you’re frustrated and you’re mowing with a three three- wheeled mower um
Positive Mindset
you you’ll be mowing with a three- wheeled mower um you know two weeks from
from that day two months from that day two years from that day with a bunch of
angry customers with chopped up lawns yeah with And you’ll keep doing that
unless when these things happen you’re really open to
learning um like you you look at it of like oh that happened how did I get to
this spot what what do I need to do to really self-reflect and look within to see
what’s in my control serenity prayer this and make the shifts that I’m going
to make so that I’m not hanging out with a threewhe mower in two weeks um so it’s
not just about experiencing it that that helps you move forward it’s about
experiencing it with a humble heart and an open heart to learning and
self-reflection and then that’s where you get blessed by it what you’re describing Brandon is uh it’s a it’s a
skill that gets talked about in DBT a lot which is the people who are the most effective
at being able to regulate their emotions and have less suffering and have more joy they learn to master the skill of
replacing what they call willfulness with willingness what willfulness is is that
I dictate to the world how it’s supposed to go because that’s how it’s supposed to go and I mow with a three-w wheeled
mower for three weeks after that because it shouldn’t have broken down
and everybody everybody drives by going “What is that guy doing?” And I’m like “Well it shouldn’t be this way it should
should should should it should you know?” And they’re like “Well why don’t you just take it into the shop and put another bolt in there and add another
wheel like like what do you what do you Well it’s like because it shouldn’t be that way it was supposed to be this
way.” And uh and in doing the willfulness thing I increase my
suffering exponentially whereas and here’s here’s the hard part like and this is the
really rough part on a day when like nothing goes right right like the water doesn’t go hot for me in my shower cuz
Growth Opportunities
now the water heater’s out on the same day that the sprinklers broke down on the same day that I happened to have a fender bender on my way into work on the
same day that I just had one client that I thought was well on the path is now had a massive relapse and I’m sitting
there I’m like it shouldn’t be this way d why is it so hard why is everything so hard why does my car break down you know
too when I try to go home today like and I can throw my hands up and I can throw a big temper tantrum and a fit about all
the shoulds or I can embrace my life as it is because and here’s the hard part
people don’t like to hear things are as they should be it should be that our mower had only
three wheels that day because for some reason the bolts sheared off and we weren’t prepared
and that’s what it was and today is the day of learning how to mow with the
three- wheeled mower or learning how to accept that we don’t have it today and to go do the repair necessary so we can
be more effective and get the rest done tomorrow that’s easy to say about a
mower um that’s hard to say when let’s say my spouse cheats on me again yes and
you’re saying you know what look at that as as that’s that’s as it should be
because and what I mean by that is because it is what what we’re getting at is is that willingness not only comes to
a place of acceptance of things are what they are it gets you to reality and then
Real-Life Examples
it has you look at reality with eyes of possibility that’s what willingness is willingness is okay well this is my
reality and I don’t like it and that’s okay i don’t have to like it i can be in a ton of pain i can be in a ton of sadness i can feel totally emotionally
gutted but when I accept that this is my reality now I can look for the
opportunity of what this reality is going to do for me teach me help me to grow it’s like Brandon do you remember when COVID hit you did this to me you
smacked me in the face with this and I called you up and I was like “Oh crap.” Like what’s going to happen to our business like we’re not going to be able
to have people come in office and do therapy and what this might kill my practice and you were like “Man this is
going to be so full of opportunities.” Like I don’t know what’s going to happen yet with it all but
there’s going to be so many opportunities inside of this like listen to the difference like one is this like
willingness like okay I don’t like it this is unstable i don’t know what’s going to happen but man there’s tons of
opportunities here and I’m over here going like I’m going to suffer and have anxiety and not sleep at night and worry
and both of us are in the same scenario and one’s met with willingness and the
other one’s met with willfulness it’s it’s really hard to look be behind the
the curtain of uncertainty you know so like you know when when bad things are
happening you’re thinking the worst oh I’m going to go bankrupt if I divorce my family will all be torn apart if I you
know if these bad thing and and we deem them as bad things right bad things happen and what you’re kind of saying is
if you’re approaching it with a willing heart and an openness then you’re curious as to what
is going to happen there’s possibility there um from these things that are
happening and yes they’re they’re full of pain they’re really difficult and
they’re full of opportunity tons of opportunity and behind that curtain is
some light and life and hope that you don’t know exists until you actually
accept the reality that you’re in the acceptance has to come first or
else you stay behind the curtain and you resist and you resist and you resist and you don’t all these little snags and all
Conclusion
these little things get the best of you if we were to take your example from earlier Brandon and this is going to be
another thing that maybe our listeners will kind of like have to wrestle with a little bit what you’re saying is this is
my partner has we’ve already had a big disclosure my partner continues to cheat on
me that sucks that hurts there’s pain in that there’s all sorts of like devastation in that but what that’s
going to end up producing for me is an opportunity to see what it’s like to go through a divorce and start fresh and
and maybe potentially develop a whole new relationship yep yep that’s an
opportunity built inside of a horrible situation and and even that the same
Call to Action
thing applies to the cheater now now what I’m what I mean by that is I’m not
saying it’s good that they’re out cheating i’m not saying that but they’re compulsively doing something for a
reason if they can stop and look at that and be like “This is my reality i am acting in an addiction this is where I’m
at there’s something to learn here.” Then that’s an opportunity for them um
and but if they can’t they’ll continue the numbout they’ll continue the the the
resistance to life as it is and the addiction will continue to run the show that’s all addiction is yeah so so so if
we were to retitle the this uh this episode with the right spelling Yeah i’d
do Why does with an S on the D O E why does it feel like
Yeah yeah no but really what we could re retitle this episode as Brandon with what you’re saying
is everything is an opportunity that’s what that’s what you’re saying
here is is everything is an opportunity even it just it just means that my day
is going to look different today than I thought it was if if you Tyler if you
mix um these things curiosity um fortitude like being able to hang in
there while it’s while it’s tough and you mix that with some hope and some faith
Viewer Questions
um then what you just said is absolutely true absolutely true and and and and
that you know this this is where God comes into it a little bit of like if it
you know we’ve talked before about what is God doing to me what is God doing um
for me what is God doing through me and all of these little snags that happen
even even that annoying little customer service call that I have to make or whatever can be for a
reason um and even the horrific thing that happens that rocks your world is
for a reason um and if you know that then you’ll have the fortitude to sit in
the discomfort of it with eyes of possibility and and and eyes of hope
right and that’s where it’s like okay I’m resilient now i’m resilient to the
to the hardships that come in and then I can get on the other side of it and that’s where growth actually happens
i love that i I’m thinking too Brandon of like just the principles of mindfulness and mindfulness is all about
being fully engaged in the present moment and one of the key elements to mindfulness is meeting each of those
moments without judgment or by removing judgments yeah and so now I can be
sitting at the tire shop getting my tires fixed because they’ve gone bald and I I’ve gotten a flat and I can sit
there with curiosity and just accept that my moment is to eat popcorn at Le
Schwab burning half a day and just experiencing what it’s like to sit in that office and you probably need the
break and and maybe that’s an opportunity to have a break and enjoy some popcorn
even though I’ve had to cancel three appointments right it’s Tyler it’s like you know we
flew standby growing up a ton and like you know you think you think you’re going to like Puerto Rico for a nice you
know weekend or whatever and you end up in the Atlanta airport for 4 days and you fly home sleeping under the benches
in the airport and uh if you have this attitude when you’re flying standby of
like especially with low priority of like yeah I just expect for everything to fall into place then you’re you know
you’re in for it how many times Brandon have we tried to go someplace and it was supposed to be a flight to like Salt
Lake to Atlanta catch a connector somewhere else and then all of a sudden we’re like Salt Lake to Atlanta to
Cincinnati to Dallas back to Atlanta and then back home yeah yeah just trying to get where
we were going and we never got there but you know what if like we’re together and we’re doing that together and we never got to go to the football game or
whatever we were doing and we slept under the benches in the airport what an adventure what How many people
have had the opportunity of knowing what it’s like to sleep with no blankets under the benches in Yeah i mean yeah in
a terminal yeah you You’ve learned how to sleep in hard places i can sleep anywhere yeah yeah yeah
um yeah that type of attitude right to to to life an openness a willingness um
and and then you put your your best foot forward failure um struggle is
inevitable it’s going to happen but then you then when when it does happen you
look at it with with growth mindset and you’re fine right
um I was talking to some people this week and a couple of them were were kind
of like “G I’m in this spot where we’re stagnant in recovery we’re just kind of
like we’ve been doing the same thing again and again and it seems like nothing’s getting better nothing’s
changing.” And um they they didn’t like where they were at and it’s interesting because on one
hand they’ve gotten really good at surviving right where they’re at on the other hand they’re being called
to something different but that call to something different means stepping into some of
these snags right yeah it’s almost like you know that the snags are going to be there and
you almost don’t want to see them so you just stay in the comfort zone of the hell you’re already living yeah yeah so
face the snags learn from them it’ll move you forward um versus sit back and
avoid the discomfort of the the change the growth the process i’ll give an example of this
Brandon and it’s a story that I’ve shared a long time ago so people may some people may have heard it before but
fresh out of graduate school this is all right while I’m still in the thick of my own addiction and hasn’t come to
disclosure yet but I decided that God had called me to become a college professor and I was supposed to teach at
BYU Idaho so I get out of grad school i move my family to Rexburg Idaho without a job just because I know that’s where
I’m supposed to go and what I’m supposed to do and what I’m supposed to be i walk in to the the department the family
department at BYU Idaho and I talked to the director and I’m like I’m here to teach and uh he’s like “Oh well you’re
in the right spot there’s two positions opening up this semester.” And he’s like “So where did you get your doctorate
at?” And I’m like “I don’t have a doctorate i got a master’s degree.” and he like reached down under the desk and
he pulled out a stack that was like three feet high of files and he set them on his desk and he’s like these are all
the doctorate candidates that are not getting interviews so you’re probably not going to teach here and I was like just
devastated i went home i like I’m questioning God like why did God send me up here and this and that and the other
like two weeks later I get a phone call from him he’s like hey we had to fire one of our faculty members for sleeping
with a student like “Do you want to teach his classes just this semester as an adjunct?” I was like “I’m in.” So I
taught adjunct uh and then the next for like the next three years I got to teach two classes a semester as an adjunct
professor there but I never got a full-time job but I knew that’s where I was going to be that’s what I was supposed to do i was supposed to be a
full-time professor in the midst of all of that D-Day happens my life blows up i blow my
wife’s life up and then you called me and you’re like “Hey Tyler we should niche into this place and build a
practice together on like how to overcome pornography addiction and betrayal like that there’s not enough
people doing this kind of work.” You didn’t know I was even in my recovery that time but you said that so so now I’m fighting i’m like “Okay I should
start a private practice because I’m not getting the job that I want but the job that I want is supposed to be there.” um
because God told me I’m supposed to move here and I’m hitting all these snags and I can’t get hired because I don’t have a
doctorate and then they don’t have the right positions and then I went to work for the drug courts to fill the gaps and pay my bills and then you called and
right about the time I decided that it was time to build my own private practice and maybe move down to Logan Utah with you and build a practice there
um a job came open full-time job they asked me to apply for it i went through
the whole process and I got down to be the finalist in two places like with two people just the final two and it
happened to be on a weekend when we had a big church meeting and inside the church meeting I felt like I got another
prompting that said “You’re not supposed to teach at the college you’re supposed
to go start your private practice.” And uh the next day I went into the department and right when I
walked in the the head dean of the school was there and he’s like “Hey you must have got the news you got the job we just found out this
morning I got a job to teach full-time which had always been my dream which had been my prompting in the the first place
and I had to look him in the eye and say “Actually I think I’m supposed to go a different direction now um I’m I’m going
to go build a practice and help people with pornography addiction and betrayal.” And he looked at me like “What like you went through this whole
fourmonth hiring process and now you’re not going to take it?” And I said “Yeah that’s that’s what’s going to happen.”
Um all of those snags were actually part of the
cultivation i had to go to BYU Idaho i had to get shut down i had to work for the drug courts i had to get a call from
you i had to then decide that I had enough skill and talent to go out on my own and practice my own therapy um and
the snag of not getting the job had to be there
it had to be there even though it was devastating and yet I look back and I’m so grateful that those snags were there
well look at the you know that I’m sure when you turn that job down there’s probably a lot of feelings of like what
am I doing like oh I went home and my wife was like I’m behind you but man like that’s what you’ve wanted to do for
the last seven years like what are you what are you and then and then to make it worse we decided to move to Logan and
I’m like “Okay well God’s going to grease the skids and make it easy.” We went and we found a house we put an offer in we got the offer accepted we
had all all of our financing lined out and then like two days before we were supposed to close the financing fell
through and now I’ve got little girls who are getting ready to go to school we’re supposed to be moving to Logan i got no place to go and and I was just
like “What?” My wife went up in the mountains and like yelled at God like “Hey if we made a decision like you got to help us out you know I went to church
and I taught I taught a porn lesson at church that Sunday.” And thank goodness
for the porn lesson yeah thank goodness for the porn and after church my wife was up in the mountains and somebody
from my church heard me in the hallway after I taught the lesson telling my friends like “Hey I don’t know what I’m
going to do my house just fell through i don’t know what to happen i don’t have the financing anymore.” Another member
of our church heard me say that in the hallway went to my lesson had the lesson hit them in a way that was just like
“Wow that was like powerful and meaningful.” He came over to my house and just told me “Thank you for my
lesson.” And then right at the end of our visit he said “And by the way I I I probably shouldn’t have heard this but I heard you in the hallway talking to your
friend and um I heard that you don’t have financing for your house anymore that’s supposed to
close and uh here’s a snag you know and he’s like uh I just feel impressed to
say that uh I I’ve got I’ve got the I’ve got the financing for you.” Uh he’s like
I was like “What?” He’s like “Yeah like do you want to drop a contract or something?” thing he’s like “Nope I’m on
a word of- mouth guy.” He’s like “Come to my house tomorrow we’ll go to the bank and get the money.” He’s like “How much do you need?” And I’m like “Well
the total price of the house was such and such.” He’s like “Oh yeah no problem come.” He went and got me the whole
price of the house and uh we moved into our house and not only did we move into
our house he ran his own business he took his employees his trucks his
trailers and Tuesdays later he moved me into my house that he gave me the money for to get my family moved wow and
um that snag actually built like such a
deeper conviction in God having a plan for me and God’s love for me and the
relationship that I had with this now new deep deep friendship that I have to this day
um none of that happens without the snag yep exactly but in in the moment you’re
looking at it it’s like this all falling apart this is the worst but then hindsight you look back and you’re like
“Oh what is God doing through me?” And if you just stay in there if you just sit in there in in what you know is
right and and good and true if you just stay there then you’ll see why you’ll
understand why you can’t peek behind the curtain um but but you can stay in that
place of openness and I love that story if you have eyes to see yeah and I love
that story and I you know I don’t I’ve never met that man but I love him just for for the goodness of him and just
like wow like humanity is good um so you
guys I hope this was helpful listening to it if you’re struggling and you’re hitting snags and um wondering you know
where are you going to be in six months where are you going to be in a year i hope this was helpful to just stop take
a step back um you know find hope find
um find faith and and know that you will move forward no matter what um and until
next time keep on keeping on

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